When it comes to confidence, I am of the belief that we are all on a much truer level playing field than we realize. While some may appear more confident than others, I really believe we are all kind of just going through the motions and “faking it until we make it.” After all, those who come across as over-confident and cocky, probably aren’t that confident at all. Confident people don’t have to pump themselves up and tell themselves why they’re awesome all the time, they just naturally are and showcase that through their actions.
But ultimately, confidence is something we all want to achieve. Whether it be confidence in one specific area such as performance in a sport, or confidence with your entire life, we all like to feel and believe that we can achieve greatness. So with that…I give you three useful tips to boost confidence.
WRITE A LIST OF YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS
Whenever you are about to go into an uncomfortable situation, especially one giving you anxiety, write a list of your ten to twenty biggest accomplishments. You will then begin to see yourself as a high value person, the awesome individual that you are, and you will have your positive feelings completely replace the negative feelings at the forefront of your mind. These accomplishments can be throughout your life, or a shorter time period like within the last month if you want to make it more relevant to your current “you”. Developing confidence is as much about shifting your mindset as it is about anything else, and this is a great way to begin to shift your mindset. Stop worrying about your perceived negative qualities, and start focusing on all that could go right due to your awesome possum qualities.
START SETTING GOALS
If you’re struggling to accomplish a task or just feeling down in your luck in general, start setting realistic goals that can be accomplished. This could be specific to a task that you are struggling with, or tasks in other areas of your life that you want to improve. Once you start to accomplish these goals, you will begin to feel better about yourself in all areas of your life, and you might even develop some new habits that could just naturally make you a better person. To give you some examples, I have a goal of travelling to one new place a week…somewhere I’ve never been before. I enjoy exploring and letting my mind wander on its own, away from the stressors of life, but I don’t give myself that opportunity enough. Secondly, I currently have the goal of cooking/baking something new every week. I have a strong passion for food, but I often get lazy in just making the same things every week, or whatever I’m craving most. Now, I’m expanding my horizons. I have many more goals that I am now trying to stick to on both a weekly basis and even a several times a week basis (is there a word for that?). And it feels great. Your goals can be related to absolutely anything that you want, just remember to make them attainable and time-based.
TAKE ON NEW HOBBIES & INTERESTS
Becoming confident in yourself is easy to do when you are a person of high value, with many interests, hobbies and social circles. If you are stuck in a rut with no friends, no romantic life and no social events, get out there and experience new things! Social groups in your area exist for virtually anything you are interested in, and you should definitely seek out those experiences or at least find people who like the same things that you do. If you want to go one step further, put yourself in uncomfortable situations that are outside your comfort zone. Once you begin to do this, you will realize it wasn’t as bad as you thought, and that you now have new friends and new stories to tell. If joining a new social group sounds daunting to you, see if you can build something within your existing circles, such as taking on a new social initiative or cause at work.
When it comes to confidence, we’re really all just faking it until we make it. But with these tips, you should be soon enough on the path toward greater confidence in your life. Thanks for reading and see you soon!